I told myself that I was not going to look at any waiting child list. First it seems like shopping for a child which is super weird to me; Second the guilt of knowing you can provide a better life for them all and not "picking" them; Third it makes me think "Why can't I be a better person?" "Why can't I make a difference in the world?" "Why do I complain about my life when they have nothing?". Well I ignored all the above reasons and looked at several waiting list. I was an absolute mess for weeks after looking at the list. Thank God I have friends who have adopted who understand my the feeling. I am going to try to not look at anymore list.
I am however going to change my "special needs" list to be open to more health concerns than I originally thought. Some special needs are chronic health problems but can be easily managed by medication and create life long healthy lives for children if treated in the United States. With my medical background experience and knowledge I have made some major changes/request in the child I wish to adopt.
I am waiting to hear from my agency to see how I go about placing these new special needs on my paperwork to allow the Bulgarian government to know that they can match me with a broader range of children. I guess it would be possible for my agency to find a child for me with my new criteria and then change my paperwork. This seems like it would add weeks of waiting that I don't want to wait. I am hoping I can change my USCIS(immigration approval for generic child) before I even get matched.
Anyway that is all I have for now. I hope to hear from my agency soon about the next step in changing paperwork. I do hope that the friends and family in my life will be accepting of the new changes in my adoption plan. I believe a little education will make everyone comfortable with my decision.
In my domestic plans....Kadin's paperwork will be sent to state for approval by DCFS this upcoming week. Adrian and Arbieona go to court in March so we shall see what happens in both their cases.
I also found out wonderful new last night that my sister Casey is expecting her second child this October!!!! YAY!!!!
more later
jessica
I am however going to change my "special needs" list to be open to more health concerns than I originally thought. Some special needs are chronic health problems but can be easily managed by medication and create life long healthy lives for children if treated in the United States. With my medical background experience and knowledge I have made some major changes/request in the child I wish to adopt.
I am waiting to hear from my agency to see how I go about placing these new special needs on my paperwork to allow the Bulgarian government to know that they can match me with a broader range of children. I guess it would be possible for my agency to find a child for me with my new criteria and then change my paperwork. This seems like it would add weeks of waiting that I don't want to wait. I am hoping I can change my USCIS(immigration approval for generic child) before I even get matched.
Anyway that is all I have for now. I hope to hear from my agency soon about the next step in changing paperwork. I do hope that the friends and family in my life will be accepting of the new changes in my adoption plan. I believe a little education will make everyone comfortable with my decision.
In my domestic plans....Kadin's paperwork will be sent to state for approval by DCFS this upcoming week. Adrian and Arbieona go to court in March so we shall see what happens in both their cases.
I also found out wonderful new last night that my sister Casey is expecting her second child this October!!!! YAY!!!!
more later
jessica
